-CHAPTERS-
00:00 Introduction and Background
03:04 Family Influence and Military Legacy
06:13 Father's Role in AIDS Care and Compassion
12:12 Struggles with Faith and Church Disillusionment
18:49 Teenage Identity and Social Acceptance
29:58 Military Decision and Internal Conflict
36:06 Training and Preparation for War
44:47 Facing Reality: The Moment of Arrival
52:02 Beliefs and Misconceptions: Understanding the Mission
58:29 Cultural Shock: From Curiosity to Disillusionment
01:01:52 The Weight of Loss: Remembering Kyle
01:10:39 The Struggle with Purpose: Transitioning Home
01:22:02 Faith and Philosophy: Questioning Existence
01:27:22 Finding Connection: The Role of Father Rocheford
01:29:45 The Weight of War and Personal Struggles
01:38:28 The Impact of Relationships on Mental Health
01:46:39 Facing the Consequences of Past Actions
01:57:33 The Journey of Self-Discovery and Healing
02:08:27 The Importance of Sharing Veteran Stories
-SUMMARY-
In this conversation, Benjamin Sledge shares his journey from a challenging upbringing in Oklahoma to becoming a decorated combat veteran and author. He discusses the profound influence of his family, particularly his parents, on his values and choices, including his decision to join the military. Sledge reflects on his father's pioneering work as an AIDS nurse during a time of stigma and fear, and how this shaped his understanding of compassion and empathy. He also delves into his struggles with faith, identity, and the pressures of social acceptance during his teenage years, ultimately leading to a conflict between his desire for a carefree college life and the responsibilities of military service. The conversation culminates in a discussion about the importance of training and preparation for the realities of war, highlighting the internal conflicts faced by soldiers. In this segment of the conversation, the speaker reflects on their experiences in Afghanistan and Iraq, detailing the emotional and psychological challenges faced upon arrival, the disillusionment with the mission, and the impact of loss on their perspective. They explore the complexities of cultural understanding, the struggle with purpose after returning home, and the philosophical questions that arise from witnessing the brutality of war. The discussion also touches on the importance of connection and mentorship, particularly through the figure of Father Rocheford, who offers a different perspective on faith and purpose. In this conversation, Benjamin Sledge shares his profound experiences as a veteran, exploring the weight of war, the impact of relationships on mental health, and the journey of self-discovery and healing. He reflects on the importance of sharing veteran stories and the struggles of reconciling his past actions with his present self. Through candid discussions about faith, personal growth, and the challenges of life after combat, Sledge emphasizes the need for community and understanding in the healing process.
-TAKEAWAYS-
Philosophical reflections on the human condition arise from war experiences.
The search for purpose can lead to self-destructive behavior.
Mentorship plays a crucial role in navigating trauma.
Faith can be questioned in the face of war's brutality. War can leave deep emotional scars that affect personal relationships.
The importance of having someone to talk to about one's struggles cannot be overstated.
Self-reflection is crucial in understanding one's role in past relationships.
Healing often requires facing uncomfortable truths about oneself.
Community support is vital for veterans dealing with trauma.
Sharing stories can help bridge the gap between veterans and civilians.
Faith can be a source of strength during difficult times.
Acknowledging one's flaws is the first step towards personal growth.
Writing can be a therapeutic outlet for processing trauma.
Understanding moral injury is essential for veterans' mental health.
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Award-winning author
Benjamin Sledge is a wounded combat veteran who served in Iraq and Afghanistan, mostly under the Special Operations community (Civil Affairs and Psychological Operations Command) of the U.S. Army. He is the recipient of the Bronze Star, Purple Heart, and two Army Commendation medals for his actions overseas.
Upon returning home, he began work in geopolitical intelligence, then moved into mental health. He holds multiple certifications in Crisis Response, Trauma Care, and Suicide Prevention and continues to work in the veteran community and within geopolitics. With over 14 years of experience as a creative director, he has designed logos, websites, graphics, and ads that have been prominently featured in highly regarded publications such as TIME magazine and The New York Times.
A prolific communicator, Sledge has also written several articles on masculinity, the military, relationships, and faith that have gone viral on social media, and his essays are featured regularly on Medium. From CNN and The New York Times to Fox News and The Daily Wire, his writing and graphic design have graced the pages of diverse publications. His book, Where Cowards Go To Die, chronicles his time in war and personal struggles to readjust and was released in July 2022 to critical acclaim. To date, his book has won the following awards and accolades:
Gold Medal Winner, Nonfiction Book Awards for Biography & Memoir
Gold Medal Winner, Readers' Favorite Book Awards
Winner, 2024 Book Excellence Awards
2023 Chanticleer Military & Front Lines First Priz…
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